When a relationship becomes a Hall of Mirrors, your true self becomes nearly impossible to identify. Surrounded by projections, reflections go from affirming to haunting. It’s often easier to lash out, creating fresh wounds—or reopening existing ones—than to heal.
The brutal examination that is Malcolm & Marie is a thing of jagged beauty.
The chatter about the film says so much about us, though:
“Zendaya doesn’t even look like she’s of age next to John David Washington.”
“All they do is argue the whollle tiiiime.”
“Did she really think she was cooking?”
“It’s 40 minutes too long.”
I get the superficial quips and dismissive hot takes. This film is confronting AF. Written and directed by Sam Levinson, it is achingly beautiful to watch; easy on the eyes, but attempted murder on the spirit. Who wants to unpack a movie about two people carrying SO. Much. Baggage?
These two are in a tango, and they’re out for blood. Malcolm & Marie is lithe, fluid and dagger sharp…this was a dance I had to see all the way through to the finish.
*****SPOILER ALERT*****
If you haven’t seen the film, stop here, go watch if you’ve been on the fence (I vote YES, especially if you enjoy drama at the theater) and then come back. It’s on Netflix.
This film was made during the pandemic, but its story folds in neatly to the constraints of Covid-19 protocol compliant filmmaking. One minimalist location, Zendaya’s home. Two characters, with one wardrobe change each. It’s a study in sheltering in place…in a minefield resembling a home. But this is a pre-Covid world. We know because the inciting incident happens at a packed, Before Times film premiere, complete with after party. It’s Malcolm’s debut as writer-director. Malcolm is all bravado as he glides to The Godfather of Soul at the bar. By contrast, Marie is a vision of stunning beauty and utter depletion from their night out.
Barely off the red carpet, she hits the door, relieves herself and goes from the bathroom right to the kitchen to take care of her Man of the Hour by whipping up a box of mac & cheese at 1:00 am. Malcolm goes right into celebrating himself, high on all the applause and genuflection of critics during the premiere. But not before telling Marie how beautiful his baby looked. Only Marie is still in the bathroom, on the other side of the house. At first, she cannot hear his compliment.
It’s a foreshadowing. Because any compliment Malcolm has for Marie comes at a price: wrapped in a torrent of abusive weapons, from blistering insults and gaslighting to stockpiling past transgressions for deployment during deeply hurtful tirades. Sure, they’re peppered with an “I love you, Marie” here, and promises not to take her for granted there. But this promise is impossible for him to keep. Marie’s literal peace is of no consequence to him. She tries to bathe away the grime of being forgotten and he is unrelenting in his cruelty. For Malcolm, getting the girl isn’t enough. He has to win the battle and the war. He casts Marie’s recovery from drug addiction into the same category as “working harder” like he did as a production grunt. He calls her “unstable”, “intolerable”, and “exhausting”. But Marie isn’t the one fighting the air in the back yard or cursing a positive Los Angeles Times review and its writer a thousand ways. Malcolm is all of the above, but he’s in the Hall of Mirrors and can’t even see himself.
Malcolm has an all too willing sparring partner in Marie. She is raw and chaffed from all his grating and berating, but she is a fighter. She kicked her habit, but her need for external validation still gnaws at her. In the Hall of Mirrors, Marie doubts her first mind and dishonors her feelings. She needed the reactions of others at the after party to realize that she was in fact highly pissed and straight up gutted by Malcolm at the premiere. (And she ain’t wrong. How do you make a whole movie about your girl’s life, and shout out everybody, then fail to mention your muse as she looks at you from the audience?) She demands Malcolm tell her why she wasn’t cast as his lead, but she also allowed self-sabotage to keep her from auditioning. And just when the tide of ire between them ebbs…she pulls him back into the water for the next round of arguing, killing all hope for a future with Malcolm as anyone more than “mediocre”: “you’re set, and this is a good as you’re gonna get”. Undertow in an ocean of tears is certain.
Malcolm and Marie are two grown, deeply needy, wounded people who need therapy as much as they profess to love each other. Their fleeting moments of joy onscreen when they threaten to make up are like oases in a desert. They are also mirages: we never get to the make-up sex, so we have to sit in the tension of these triggers that we all remember from past or current intimate partners. The joy never lasts because Malcolm and Marie don’t know when to stop fighting. Their cups are empty. Neither has anything truly loving to pour into the other. Even their silence is a chasm too uncomfortable for them; that’s how cozy they are lobbing grenades from opposing trenches. When it gets quiet, one of them takes their leave…until the last frame.
Caustic bickering cannot survive as a love language, even when both are fluent.
What are they gonna do? How will they get through? Who do they need to be to escape the Hall of Mirrors?
Malcolm & Marie is a tour de force. Making the insistent demand that we swap ‘they’ for ‘you’ as we watch is its superpower.
Thembisa S. Mshaka 
‘On The Record’ is The ‘Bombshell’ Black Woman Survivors Deserve
February 7, 2020By Thembisa S. Mshaka
Patriarchy is an attention whore. When men raping and sexually assaulting women is the topic, the survivors are routinely relegated to the shadows, and the men wind up in the spotlight. Whether we see the actual perpetrators, or the men (and the women who love them) rush to defend them, the conversation is diverted to the perp’s well-being. The impact of being accused on them. Their careers. Their families’ rights to privacy and respect. And once the coddling of the offender has been taken care of, the patriarchal gaze turns with condescension to the women who survived. The respectability inquisition begins.
“Why say something now?”
“She wants his money.”
“Why didn’t she report it?”
“What was she doing there in the first place?”
“Everyone knows he’s a creep. That’s on her.”
Add being a Black woman survivor to this cauldron, and the questions become caustic. Why? Because at the intersection of money, power, race and rape, the bodies of Black women are sacrificed. The souls of Black women are forsaken.
“Well, look at her. She should have expected it.”
“I know [insert perp’s name here]. He was never like that with me.”
“She’s trying to destroy Black men.”
“These gold diggers cry rape all the time.”
“She’s not credible.”
I saw On The Record at Sundance last month. Like every audience at all of its screenings in Park City, I was riveted and horrified, then moved out of my seat to a standing ovation. It’s explosive, but not like C-4; it steals breath and overpowers, consuming like ether. And this is the film’s superpower: its approach mirrors the experience of sexual assault itself, and then, brings you face to face with nine women who recount being raped or sexually assaulted by music mogul Russell Simmons. The film also includes a formidable selection of hip-hop artists and hip-hop culture experts, including Dr. Joan Morgan and veteran writer/EIC Kierna Mayo, who join scholars Dr. Shanita Hubbard and Professor Kimberle Crenshaw, specialists at examining Black women across history and in the present moment for much needed context as the stories of the survivors unfold. Me Too Movement founder Tarana Burke also lends her insight on the importance of centering survivors and holding institutions accountable to the film.
The relative absence of Black men speaking on the pervasiveness of rape culture in the music industry is disappointing, but not surprising. From caping for serial rapists and blaming the victim, to bullying the allies of survivors, rape apologist Bingo is a popular game among the boys club, and this is true of the Black boyz club, too. This is why the presence of music producers Miguel Mojica and Daddy-O (pictured below) are so vital—they do what we need more men of all stripes to do—defy “money over bitches” misogyny while openly rejecting predatory behavior.
Once I returned from the festival, I made it my business to see Bombshell. Thankfully, the film’s Oscar nods for acting (nominees Margot Robbie and Charlize Theron are outstanding, as is Nicole Kidman) and makeup (Vivian Baker is masterful) gave it an extended run in theaters. I was looking for parallels and of course, intersections. I found plenty of both.
As a caveat, format is an important distinction. On The Record is a documentary, vetted and fact checked vigorously by its directors, Kirby Dick and Amy Ziering. They stood up to the Pentagon by making The Invisible War, so they don’t play around with legalities. While based on real people and true events, Bombshell is a dramatic feature that owns up to adding elements and situations to its story. The commonalities, however, are stunning.
The indifference and silence of men is deafening in both films. With the exception of Mojica and Daddy-O in On The Record, keeping a job or being loyal to a perpetrator is preferable to defending women. In Bombshell, men and women alike rally to support Roger Ailes, who, despite cases being brought against Fox News, sexually assaulted women for a generation with impunity, until former anchor Gretchen Carlson sued Ailes personally. Megyn Kelly’s male producer is more concerned with his job than her allegation or her experience of being violated.
Both films compel the viewer to take the journey women take all too often: that of being in the crosshairs of a hostile work environment, where one’s choices are to suffer by giving in to their assailant’s advances and demands, or suffer the consequences of a demotion, a firing, public humiliation, the poisoning of one’s name in her field, or some cruel combination of the above.
In excruciating detail, former major label A&R executive Drew Dixon outlines the mental and physical contortion required to do her job at Def Jam Recordings in the 1990’s. She recounts Simmons hemming her up at a bar, attempting to kiss her and exposing himself to her in her office, and when none of this yielded conquest…luring her into his bedroom under the guise of hearing a demo CD, then forcibly penetrating her. Dixon was 24, in the prime of her career, after a string of hits, including the GRAMMY® winning song “You’re All I Need” by Mary J. Blige and Method Man. Over the course of the film, she reflects on the shattering of every area of her life, noting that “her life is the crime scene” as the survivor of rape.
Kayla, Robbie’s character in Bombshell, echoes this assertion as she takes inventory of the aftermath of the Ailes takedown. “Here’s the thing about sexual harassment. You’re ruled by the questions. What did I do? What did I wear? What did I miss? Will this define me?” Kelly had swallowed the violation she experienced by Ailes for a decade, holding it in to advance her career and feed her family. Carlson paid the cost of being fired and then dragged in the media, forced to relive yet again that which she had survived. Being blonde and conservative wasn’t enough to save them. Every survivor in each film grapples with the paralyzing fear of going public, and the fallout they face once they do. It is agonizing to watch.
And here’s where the paths diverge along race and class. The Black women survivors who came forward against Simmons are beyond the statute of limitations, placing Simmons out of reach for legal action. Carlson won her lawsuit against Ailes, netting $20 million (with a gag order) and toppling Ailes from his post (Ailes won a hefty severance package). Several women employees who were harassed at Fox News were compensated from a $50 million dollar settlement.
Black women survivors get the package nobody wants: the labels of race traitor and slanderer. They get to pack up and go home, with their reputations destroyed, careers derailed, and the crushing baggage of scars, trauma and possibly, healing to unpack. It is a years-long picking of unrelenting, ravaging shrapnel. The devastation to the survivors and their families is incalculable.
So while there are no reparations, there is freedom in the testimony, and there is a reckoning. Ugly truths come to light. Names are put on the record. Perpetrators meet consequences that for too long, society has enabled them to avoid. And yet. None of that compares to what survivors endure. On The Record reminds us of this with the words of Anita Hill and Desiree Washington, whose assailants Clarence Thomas and Mike Tyson enjoy a lifetime Supreme Court appointment and go on to stints on Broadway, respectively. And while Simmons continues to deny any wrongdoing on social media, he is also living in Bali, a nation that has no extradition treaty with the United States. It stands to reason that an innocent man need not to go to this extreme to stay out of court and/or prison…unless there are survivors with allegations for whom the statute of limitations have yet to run out. The film makes no comment on this inconsistency of proclamations and actions on the part of Simmons.
On The Record is so powerful and so well crafted, it emerged from Sundance with distribution on HBO Max, after Oprah Winfrey declined to stay aboard as its executive producer.
Impervious to silence, On The Record is the Bombshell Black women have been waiting on for centuries, and it is the megaphone they deserve.
Thembisa S. Mshaka is the author of Put Your Dreams First: Handle Your [entertainment] Business and an award-winning media and advertising creative. Her latest work can be read in the anthology Uncommon Bonds: Women Reflect on Race and Friendship, Edited by Kersha Smith and Marcella Runell Hall.
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